Guest blog: Five most common fears of future fathers by Andrea Allison-Holland

When a woman gets pregnant, she mostly thinks about herself (and the baby of course), her health, her feelings, her fears and anxieties and this can sometimes make us forget about the fact that there is one person involved here, the father. We tend to forget that they are also there and that they might have some fears and anxieties of their own. And they do. They sure do. They have fears that are perfectly understandable and some that are less understandable, but we need to be aware that they have those fears.

1. Fears for our and the child’s health

Above everything else, future fathers fear for our health and the health of the child. They are aware (even those who are not that in the loop when medical issues are in question) that there are tons of things that can go wrong and that there are always unforeseen negative things that may occur. And this scares them to the bone. They have only two beings in the world they care that much about and these are you and the child you are carrying. They would die for you and any thought that something might ail you or the child makes their blood curdle with horror.

2. Fears for their ways

Do not worry, they are not afraid that you might kill them or that the baby will kill them. When we say that they fear for their life, we mean that they fear for the way of life that they have gotten used to over the years. Even if you have lived together for a decade, it is still a life that they are more comfortable with than a life with a new human being that completely depends on them and that limits their options and their choices.

3. Fears of responsibility

Some men are not really cut out for responsibility and the idea that there is an entirely new being that is depending on them to take care of it and survive is something that frightens the majority of men. Becoming a father is a point in life when they just do not have the option of staying kids themselves any longer. They need to become fathers and this can be a huge burden for any man.

4. Fears for the relationship

There are also men who will fear for the relationship that they have with you, the mother of their child or the prospective mother of their child. Up until the birth of their child, it was only the two of you and this meant that they got your undivided love and attention. Now, they fear that you might neglect them or that your relationship will change to such an extent that it will be ruined. This is a perfectly understandable fear and something you need to keep in mind. A little bit of attention goes a long way..

5. Fears of being a poor father

This is the fear that is perhaps the easiest one to understand as a woman. We all fear that we might not be the mothers that we think we should be and the same is true for fathers. They think about whether they will be successful parents and whether they will set good examples for their children. This is a fear we can relate to and a fear that we can fight together, giving it our best to be the best parents that any child could have.

So I give my best as a mother of two beautiful children, Andrea Allison Holland proudly wears the title of mother and  still have time to be a freelance journalist, blogger and currently working hard for Saving Money Expert. This article is a result of life experience and a sincere desire to help the expectant parents to more easily overcome their fears and enjoy the nature and the role assigned to them from the beginning of creation and intended

Andrea Allison-Holland, a wife, an employed women, a kindergarten teacher, a mother and in my spare time, hope to become a decent blogger, I think I’m on good course for that. My area of interests is wide, I like to expand my knowledge, but I also believe that life experience is priceless. I have two young daughter and great husband, enjoys in parenting,shopping and other extreme sports.